How to Win Friends and Influence People

How to Win Friends and Influence People

Six Ways to Make People Like you. If you want people to like you........

Dale Carnegie

Rule 1: Become genuinely interested in other people.

1)"Do this and you will be welcome anywhere."

2)"You can make more friends in two months by becoming interested in othe people than you can in two years by trying to get other people interested in you."

3)"Ask questions to other people, questions that they would enjoy answering."

Quote: "Find something you're passionate about and keep tremendously interested in it." - Julia Child

Reflection: This rule is saying that in order for someone or something to have a lot of freinds you need to be interested in the person or thing you are trying to befriend. Such as asking questions. Also to be very welcoming to one. Trying to be very open minded towards the persons thoughts or feelings. If you are the opposite you will lack friends and or lack social skills. If you do the opposite of what the book tells you to do, you will not have success in having or finding friends because you will not be able to withstand the person or yourself.

Rule 2:Smile
1)"Actions speak louder than words, and a smile says, "I like you. You make me happy. I am glad to see you."
2)"You don't feel like smiling? Then force yourself to smile."
3)"It creates happiness in the home, fosters good will in a business, and is the countersign (witness or indication) of friends."

Quote: "A warm smile is the universal language of kindness." - William Arthur Ward

Reflection: The rule to smile is to have always a positive mind. To never have negative thoughts over people and ideas. To smile is like a metaphor of always keeping up. To never have a bad attitude to people. Always having a smile means welcoming and gratitude to the person. If you don't have smile you seem to people as a bad person and also as a wrong person. To have a smile you need to very open minded and to never have wrong opinions about other opinions.

Rule 3: Remember Names
1)"A man's name is to him the sweetest and most important sound in any language."
2)"If you don't remember names you are headed for trouble."

Quote: "If I'm gonna tell a story, I'm start with my name." - Kendrick Lamar

Reflection: A reason you need to remember names is to show interest in the other person. To show how someone you talk too, you actually pay attention to what they say rather than being distracted. To remember names you need to ask about it. In order to ask about it you need to be interested in the person. You need to take importance in the persons personal life and his or her personality. It may take some time to remember someones name but once you learn it you will never forget it.

How to Remember Names: 

1. Focus on just the person.
2. Repeat their name out loud.
3. Ask their name if not heard correctly.
4. Make references to the persons name.
5. Ask a person about the other persons name.
6. Write it down.

Rule 4: Be a good listener. Encourage others to talk about themselves.

"If you aspire to be a good coversationalist, be an attentive listener."

"Remember that the man you are talking to is a hundred times more interested in himself and his wants and his problems than he is in you and your problems"

Quote: "It takes a great man to be a good listener." - Calvin Coolidge

Reflection: To be a good listener you need to be interested in the person rather than talk just about yourself. You need to make the person understand that you want to know them for who they are and you want to learn more about them and their past life. To be a good listener you need to be very open in opinions and in thoughts or ideas of the other persons beliefs or ideas. You cannot be negative towards the person because that is when the other doesn't feel comfortable with you or being around you. In order to make friends you need to be very heartful and welcoming.

Rule 5: Talk in terms of the other man's interest.
"The loyal road to a man's heart is to talk to him about the things he treasures most."

Quote: "An investment in knowledge pays the best interest" - Benjamin Franklin

Reflection: To know someone is to be very interested in the person you want to know. The way to start to a conversation is to talk about the other persons interest. To have importance in the person in order to befriend him. To always be interested in the person in order for that person to befriend you. Also to never deny someones likes. Such as being bored of the person or being lazy towards the person. Always have a positive attitude in the person and never be down towards them.

Rule 6: Make the other person feel important--and do it sincerely.
"The desire to be important is the deepest urge in human nature." (John Dewey) "Helping people feel important and appreciated works magic."

Quote: "Love is when the other person's hapiness is more important than your own." - H. Jackson Brown, Jr.

Reflection: In order to befriend someone you need to set all your attention to them. Such like making them feel important. To be very interested in the other person as in what they like and what they don't like . To be interested in there behavior and how they act. To make them feel better about themselve. Also to have a positive attitude towards rather than having a negative one.

Reflection: Write an overall final reflection in this post regarding the "Six Ways to Make People Like You." Include your deepest thoughts and feelings. Write what you commit to do to apply the Six Rules.

The ways to make people like you is a very important set of rules because it changes the way you are as a person. You become a better person. Also you communicate way better to others rather than being shy. You become a better care giver. Tend to be very caring to others and about yourself. Then become very open minded to others their opinions. The ways to make people like you will be implied in my life because it will help communicate with others and to help me not be very shy.

Glenn Cunnningham - Have Heart

Glenn Cunnningham -  Have Heart

Summary: Glenn Cunningham was a man who always believed in himself and never gave up. He lost both his mother and brother but yet he never gave up. He sentenced to be crippled for life, but he commited to himself that he will be able to walk again and he will walk again. He then did walk and led to be an olympian and doctor

Reflection: Glen Cunningham's story says that just because you are being told what you are doesn't mean you can get out of it. Also how you can do what you want when you set your mind to it. To never give up and to always keep your head up high. I can relate to his story as in never giving up in something you want to do in life. Such as making a name for yourself or having for something you want to be in life.